Grief is not a linear process. It’s an abstract, overwhelming wild tide of emotions; a dark uncomfortable place we want to close the door on rather than navigate its landscape.  

Let us close our eyes and take a deep breath in.  

As we breathe, let’s consider, “what if grief could be a sacred process to be honored rather than a problem to be solved?” The grieving process can be an opportunity to see it as a profound and natural expression of love rather than a sign of weakness. Grief is an opportunity for us to show self-compassion and kindness, not by removing the pain of loss but by holding ourselves inside the pain. 

As we think about our loved ones and their spiritual journey, we recognize that our conversation doesn’t have to end when a person passes away or leaves our life. The relationship simply takes on a new shape. Writing is one option. As a direct line of communication, writing allows us to continue our dialogue safely and privately. Journal about memories that bubble up, all the things left unsaid, questions that still linger. Tell them about your day, how much you miss their playful spirit/terrible coffee/stories/how they snort when they laugh. Share your confusion and profound sadness. Each new page is a testament to a life that mattered deeply. This preservation is an act of love that reaffirms the connection we have with our loved one, despite their physical absence.  

We also realize the importance of treating ourselves with this same level of compassion. Amid grief, it is common to judge our own process. Why am I having a good day or I should be feeling better by now. Self-compassion allows us to be exactly where we are: if numb, allow stillness; if weeping, allow the tears. Allow joy and momentary fits of laughter without feeling guilt.  

We gratefully open to and accept this loving, compassionate way of perceiving grief, knowing that it supports the Highest Good for all concerned.  

And, So It Is.